Read – Judges 16. V4 –
20.
Drunk In Love
Have you ever been drunk? I hope not to many people are saying yes, but
we are all human, and unfortunately I have! And when you are drunk for most
people it is not one drink and you are gone, it takes time, it’s the first
drink, the second, the third, the forth, and then you start to loose count of
which drink it is, and you are just doing it, it is impulse. And before you
know it you are wasted. And you don’t make any sense anymore. I remember one
time I had gone out and was completely pertrified that I couldn’t feel my
eyebrows! To the hilarity of everyone else! But in my drunken state it was very
normal and made sense that I was worried about my eyebrows!
But you see being drunk and drinking, is the same kind of thing that
happens to you when you are ‘Drunk in Love’. And I’m not going to go into
saying whether in pro Beyonce songs or whatever but she has a point in that
song, that song says (in very
different language) ‘We were here and all of a sudden we were here!’
I think Samson was a bit drunk in Love, Why? Because he was down right
stupid, Delilah tricked him three times, each time the Philistines tried to get
him and he would fall for it again and again! And each time it was Delilah
getting annoyed, ‘Why don’t you trust me, if you really loved me? And I’m
thinking, you keep trying to kill him! Why would he trust you! But he was
drunk, drunk in Love! And when it is Samson we can say, pfft what a fool, but I
know when its been me, I’ve just been like ‘yeah ok’. And I know if we are
being really, really honest, some others here could say, yeah me too!
And when we reach that point of being drunk in love, the devil really
uses it. We are there saying
woohoo this great meanwhile as you are thinking this is great, the devil is
working in your weakness, like Samson, as he was thinking it was all great with
Delilah, the enemy was figuring out how to destroy him!
In Kenya I decided to buy some love birds, I had them in a cage in my
living room, but it was really weird , what they would do when I wasn’t
watching. When ever I wasn’t watching, they would start going round and testing
all of the bars to see, if there was a weak one. And they did after time of
testing they figure out how to get out, and that’s just what the devil does
when we are drunk, when we are not looking, slowly but surely prowls around
looking for the weak link!
When you are drunk in love just like when you are drunk literally it
takes you to a place of confusion, where you can no longer cope. When you are
Drunk in Love it takes you to places that you are not ready to be in,
pregnancy, hurt feelings, damaged emotions! And the real fact is that Love,
leads to marriage, marriage leads to sex and sex leads to kids, but when we get
drunk in love all of those steps get mixed up and you find yourself at a step
that you are not ready to take! In age, in maturity in circumstance! So be mindful
of that guys! Don’t pursue a heart that your not prepared to keep. Don’t
flatter a person you are not ready to carry! You might be ready for a no
strings boy or girl friend, but that is not a Godly relationship a relationship
is about love, it is communion with God, its about responsibility!
It’s a Heart thing
Just for a moment I want us to look at the physical side of Samson and Delilah’s
relationship, are you guys prepared, it might get a bit awkward! I mean this is
a guy who lost his eyes, Gods calling in his life because of a relationship. It
must have been pretty bad.
Read Judges 16 . v19
In black and white, that is the extent of their physical relationship!
Ok, I am open to the fact that maybe it was left implied that their
relationship went further physically but that would be speculation. If we only
go off what was written then how did that small amount of physical intimacy get
him in that much trouble. The answer is that it’s a heart thing! All
relationships start in the heart and what happens when we are unequally yoked something
has to shift. So Samson telling Delilah his secret, knowing that in the past
she had tried to trick him, was allowing her to take a higher place in his
heart than that of His calling and his God. He chose to live or die with her; he would prefer to loose
the Lord than loose Delilah. He needed Delilah because he had forgotten who HE
was!
And that leads us onto a question, why are we dating? Why do you want to
date? Why were Samson and Delilah dating, why did Samson need Delilah? She was
filling a gap, he needed and wanted to be loved and she appeared to fill that
need. And in the form of marriage that is a good thing, to find somebody that
matches you that can compliment your skills, help you in your weakness. But in
order to know what kind of person you need, you need to know who you are. And
the most common reason people go astray is because they don’t know who they are
as a person, and in Christ. Just
like Samson he forgot who he was! And went astray and look where it got him!
Living with Delilah
So this is a personal talk, we are talking about stuff that is personal.
And it would be very easy to say, that was thousands of years ago, and that was
Samson, and I’m not dating Delilah I’m dating, Debbie, or Derick!
But lets look at what Delilah was. What was she? Or what can Delilah be
in our lives, Delilah is something that comes along and diverts our attention
or life in direction that is not what Jesus Christ designed for you! In any
large or small way! And that can be a real person, or that can be the idea of
someone. You could want a relationship so much that you start compromising whom
you are to get one. Living with
Delilah is when you put anything in front of the destiny that God has for you!
God is there to protect you, and guide you if you allow him.
Where I work in the slum, there is a big field where we feed the kids.
And one day there were loads of chickens there, maybe around 50-60 and I was
just watching them. But all of a sudden all of them scattered. I was confused,
I could see anything there? No reason to run, but then I looked up and a huge
eagle was swooping down! All of the chickens had made it to the bushes, apart from
one, she was having to go slow because of her chicks. She got to about two
metres from the fence when she realised she could make it but her chicks couldn’t.
So she stopped, she stared that eagle in the eys and just as it swooped to grap
one of her babies, she jumped up and bounced the eagle back.
This picture says two things number one, that sometimes we can be
looking around and everything is ok, and all of a sudden something comes along
to try and destroy us, the second is that Jesus just like the Mama hen would
never leave his kids behind and He is ready to bounce the enemy off!
What am I not saying!
I am not saying you can’t date, but ask yourselves why? What would God
have me do, am I prepared to carry this through! You don’t want to date, you
want to be loved, appreciated, and you want affirmation.
Just because you have lived with Delilah doesn’t mean she cant move out!
Reverse time!
Just because you think about Delilah doesn’t mean she lives here.
For the guys – The world expects you to act a certain way. If you don’t
act in the conventional way you are not accepted, you are not attractive to the
opposite sex. The truth of the matter is that you can be weak, you can
struggle, you can be unique, you can be sensitive, because how ever you are is
the way that God made you.
For the girls – Girls, life for you is hard, you have pressure form
every direction telling you to be a certain way. You have to be a certain size,
a certain hair colour, skin shade, cup size. If you don’t fit into that small
spectrum then you are not ‘beautiful’. But here is the truth, the creator of
the world made you the way you are so if the world doesn’t think you are beautiful,
then they need to adjust their criteria. The male population puts pressure on
you to act a certain way, if you put out you’re a slut, if you don’t your
frigid. But again this is a world view. And you are not of this world, no boy
is worth giving ‘it’ up for. You’re the daughter of a king and he doesn’t
deserve it!
